The Game Plan

Ladies (and possibly gentlemen, I don't know who reads my blog) I think we have it all figured out. Maybe. As in I think we may have settled on an agency. I'm not going to say the name outright on this blog because I'm sure someone will Google it and I really don't plan on making this a private blog during the adoption process so I will just link the agency's website here. I've spoken to a couple blog writers who went through this agency and had good things to say about them (if you have personal experience with them, good or bad, that you would like to offer, please email me!). The downside is that they are really expensive. I'm talking how-in-the-world-did-I-let-my-emotions-talk-me-into-spending-this-much-money expensive. It's looks like our $30K budget will easily balloon to about $38K and while I'm not happy about that, I am happy about other aspects. Things like 1) they have a very low disruption rate (where the mother changes her mind and decides to parent) 2) their wait time is generally very short and 3) they are a national agency and can work with us if we move while we're still waiting to be matched. I also checked with this agency but unfortunately they aren't licensed for the state of CT. We didn't look at lawyers because I think I remember reading somewhere that in CT you must adopt through an agency, you cannot use lawyers. I may be wrong but I don't really care because I'd prefer to go through an agency anyway.

So this agency requires a $200 application fee, at which point they will send us the Big Packet to fill out, along with getting profile pictures and other documentation together. This is what we plan on working on during the next few months while we go through our FET(s). We know it will take a while so we want to get started on it now.

And speaking of FET's, our next one will take place in April now. I really didn't want to wait until June to go through another one, I can't stand the huge waiting periods we've had between our past cycles and I'm ready for this infertility journey to be over. Whether we get pregnant or adopt, I'm just ready to stop trying to fix my broken body and make it do something it clearly doesn't want to do on its own. It's probably one of the most frustrating things I've ever had to deal with. So I emailed Nurse D and she said they can squeeze me in in April. Since my period came on Feb 13th, I'm going to wait and see if it shows up on its own. If it doesn't show up by March 13th then I'll call Nurse D for some Provera and we'll get the ball rolling. However if my calculations are correct, I might have to cancel the cycle if I have to take Provera because that would likely push me back into a May transfer and that's cutting it a little too close to our vacation. But we'll have to see. If I have to cancel then it's no biggie. I'm going to start acupuncture this week, and really start busting my ass at the gym. I'd like to hit 190 lbs by Transfer Day which is easily attainable if I stick to my diet and exercise.

So that's the plan for now. Let's hope everything works out in April and that we waste $200 on an adoption application fee that we'll never need!